Repair, grow and learn new skills for your marriage or relationship.
Marriage, partnerships and relationships of all kinds create the fabric of our lives. Our most important relationships bring us the greatest joy and sometimes, the deepest pain.
Through marriage counseling, couples therapy or couples workshops, I help couples repair and enrich their marriage, deepen their emotional intimacy (which helps deepen sexual intimacy). I teach and coach couples how to improve communication and connection, effectively work with conflict at its roots where couples get stuck. I also teach YOU to continue using tools and skills on your own.
Every marriage or love relationship will have some conflict. Conflicts and disconnects, big or small, invite you to increase your relational intelligence and competencies. Mistakes, unhappiness, or obstacles can teach you some of your most important life lessons – whether or not you want them!
- The spiral of disconnection might appear in the form of communication problems, inability to resolve conflicts, arguments, withdrawal, decline in sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy, betrayal, lack of laughter and fun, criticism, boredom, lack of aliveness in the marriage, little things suddenly escalate into major fights, or other patterns that add to the distress -- even if you don't mean to.
Google reports show that 470,000 people look for websites about marriage or couples counseling every month! Many of those people are probably a lot like you. They value their marriage, family and/or partnership. They long to feel close, connected and loving as they once did.
Most couples try to fix their relationship on their own, but when it doesn't work, they slide into hopelessness. Some people begin to doubt that marriage counseling or a couples workshop COULD help them.
So some will never do anything beyond a search on Google! But
Take your next step to get help now. Invite your spouse or partner into a constructive dialogue process with the guidance of a marriage expert to improve your communication, to discover what fuels your conflict, to deepen your connection and intimacy, and to build the marriage or relationship you both long for.
Seek help from a relationship and marriage counseling specialist:
While I have done general counseling earlier in my career, for over 25 years, I have specialized exclusively in couples' and marriage counseling and workshops. Couple's counseling is not just one of 20 things I do. I am a marriage and relationship specialist. If people have a heart problem, they go to a cardiologist who specializes in the heart -- not just their general practitioner who does some of everything. Couples carry deep pain in their hearts when they live together disconnected and feeling alone, misunderstood, unloved, disrespected, or unimportant. That deserves specialized help for healing and growth.
There is almost always hope for your marriage -- even if it doesn't feel like it:
I can tell you from over 25 years experience, that couples usually find that their relationship DOES have hope -- even if they believe it is hopeless. It takes effort by both spouses or partners to learn how to prevent more disconnection or hurt (which often happens untentionally), learn how to re-connect in reliable ways when disconnects, hurts, and ruptures happen, and build new skills and tools to empower them to build together the marriage of their dreams.
If just ONE of you thinks you need couples' counseling, you do!
Pay attention if your spouse or partner suggests that you need to get some help for your marriage or relationship. If either of you brush off or demean your partner’s desire for help, you will multiply your problems. In addition to your issues, your partner will likely believe that you don't care about the marriage, or worse, that you don't care about him or her! That might not be true at all for you, but it comes across that way to the person whose concern has been dismissed or minimized.
If you have fears or concerns about counseling, tell your partner that you want to improve your marriage too, but that you have concerns. Ask a counselor about them in your first meeting and THEN decide if you want to return to work with that person. (You may want to check out the blog article and a video on encouraging a reluctant spouse or partner to come for a session of couple's counseling.
Counseling, workshops, or books don't magically make your problems disappear. But if you have the courage to learn and experiment with new information and tools that help you begin to dissolve the root or two that fuels most of your conflict or disconnection, you might be pleasantly surprised that you CAN co-create so much more of what you both want!
Who can benefit from our relationship / marriage counseling and couples workshops?
• build and enrich a good or OK marriage that has a few stuck places to make it even better
• repair and rebuild a marriage or relationship that is filled with conflict and disconnection
• rebuild trust after an affair or some other betrayal
• find out if there is any hope for your marriage or relationship.
- • discover why you get stuck in patterns of triggering and self-protection that adds to more trigerring and leads you to repeat the same pattern that increases distress and drains your love.
• start strong in a new marriage or relationship with pre-marital counseling or the Florida approved premarital course
Explore what approach is right for you.
• marriage or relationship counseling
• extended couples counseling sessions (3-4 hours)
• couples' intensives (1 or 2 days)
• a couples workshop - Getting the Love You Want (based on Imago Relationship Therapy developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix),
• a private couples workshop
• or an online course. (Currently the Florida premarital course is available. A guide to help you renew or rebuild a happy marriage is in the works.)
When you are ready to take your next step to get help for your most important relationship, beyond your Google search, email me. You may also leave a message at my office, but if you email me, I can respond much quicker to email -- even if we need to schedule a time to talk by telephone before we meet.
I am located in Winter Park, Florida -- a community in the Orlando, FL area.
- Stages of Relationships
- What IS Imago Relationship Therapy?
- Premarital Course
- Couples' Workshops
- List of Articles on Marriage & Relationships
“If you want to live the life you've always wanted, you'll have to make the changes you've always needed.”
Orrin WoodwardWhat’s new?
Our next regular Getting the Love You Want Workshop for Couples:
• April 28-29, 2018
• July 21-22, 2018
• October 6-7, 2018
(All start 8:30am Saturday)
Limited to 4 couples
Pardon our re-modeling!
I am making my website more friendly for iPads, tablets and smartphones.
You may find pages that look completely different from others, so please bear with me!